2. [Read: How to stop selfish people from hurting you] Being the daughter of a narcissistic mother is one of the harshest forms of child abuse that any child can endure.

There are major effects of a narcissistic upbringing on your brain. Even if they reach great goals or achieve everything they aim for, it will never be enough for them. The mother is trying to create an exact copy of herself in her daughter.

We daughters with narcissistic mothers have a lot of issues which come from having lived this cruel crazy-making lifestyle.. A daughter of a narcissistic mother is often fearful, anxious, and views the world and the inhabitants of it, in a negative and threatening light. Covert Maternal Narcissism Through the Life Cycle. But that also means that she’s projecting her own ego and all her insecurities onto her. It affects our limbic system mostly, which is the part of the brain responsible for (among other things) our emotional life, and our memories. I think that living with a Narcissistic Mother is possibly one of the most horrendous abuses of children, because - depending where on the Narcissistic Spectrum our mother is located - it can be so subtle that we don't even realise we're being abused. 4. The daughters of narcissistic mothers grow up under a threatening female shadow. One way the covert style of the narcissistic mother affects the children is by the utilization of two faces. Some of the effects on daughters are different than on sons, because girls usually spend more time with their mother and look to her as a role model. In the extreme, a daughter can starve themselves to death by anorexia. As one Daughter with a Narcissistic Mother wrote so eloquently: As different as [all daughters with narcissistic mothers] are, as varied as our situations, ages, memories, degrees of suffering or desire to vent, the consequences of being raised by this kind of mentally ill mother are essentially universal. This sort of covert and venomous narcissist mother can leave her imprint way into her child’s adulthood. She has two faces. In contrast, the child of a Narcissistic mother is seen as a utility whose most valuable attribute is his or her ability to aggrandize the parent. The effects surface by not being good enough and always comparing themselves to other people. Both types of narcissistic mother are extremely damaging. Being raised by a narcissistic parent is emotionally and psychologically abusive and causes debilitating, long-lasting effects to children. One of the effects of having a narcissistic mother is that the children of these women will have problems finding something that they like about themselves. It’s the only escape route they could find to salvage some small crumb of their existence. The main characteristics of this kind of upbringing are control and a lack of empathy.

Children of narcissistic mother figures suffer deeply because they become the narcissistic supply for the mother figure, rather than the mother figure supplying their emotional needs. Narcissistic Mother – There are daughters of narcissistic mothers who have barely survived psychologically. Learning to let it go and get on with it was a part of growing up. Likely, a daughter of a narcissistic mother was told that any tragedy she mulled over made her a “drama queen.” So, she is quick to downplay major disappointments or any bad things that happen. When a mother-daughter dynamic is affected by the mother’s covert narcissism, the impact of this can be seen throughout the daughter’s life.

Narcissistic mothers are either the overly attentive type who refuses to respect the normal boundaries of mother-daughter relationships: the narcissistic mother will expect access to every aspect of her daughter’s life; or the ignoring type who shows zero interest in her daughter’s life and frankly does not care what her daughter does. Due to lack of boundaries, narcissistic mothers tend to see their daughters both as threats and as annexed to their own egos. In fact, having a narcissistic upbringing quite literally re-wires our brain. Narcissistic Mothers: The Long-Term Effects on Their Daughters Peg Streep The author or co-author of twelve books, she also wrote MEAN MOTHERS: OVERCOMING THE …